Saturday, November 18, 2006

Happy Friggin' Thanksgiving

There is something so unbelievable heinous about my cousin Chris that Thanksgiving cannot be held at my aunt Kay's. Something so profoundly sinister that a holiday that once brought our family together is now splitting us apart. And what is this horriblle character flaw of my cousin? He's gay. My mother told me they won't let him and his boyfriend set foot in their home. I guess they want to retain their gay-free status for the all bigoted olympics in '08. I can't sleep I am so angry. How can a normal, thinking, supposedly caring human being be so hateful? My family wasn't liberal and I grew up in Kansas and wasn't really raised to think one way or another about homosexuals, but somehow just by living in the world and caring for people I learned that hey, I shouldn't be a close-minded hate monger. Crazy I guess. I guess I've become too insulated by the community I have been in since I got out of high school. But when family turns on you it is another thing all together (as many gay men and women know all too well). I shouldn't be surprised, but I am, but really more sad than anything. I suppose my aunt and her family would quote scripture to back up their reasoning. I don't know. It feels so ludicrous. I've always believed you have to try to see from the other sides' point of view so you can at least try to understand where they are coming from, but in this instance I have no wish to see from anywhere near their side. OK, they were raised to think this way, different culture, whatever, but this is family, this is someone you love, or loved before they came out. What goes through their mnds when they think of a homosexual? deviant? pedophile? Now forget how stupid those thoughts are, do they really think Chris could ever be associated with those words? This should be eye opening to them. Yes! Gay people are just like you and me! But no, they push them away and into some preconceived notion instead of actually THINKING! Shouldn't they change? I mean really. There is no logical reason a person should hate a person based on the fact they are gay. What is wrong with people?

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